Not the instant career fix most people want to hear

Hey wild-hearted wanderer,

How do you trust life when you don’t trust your body?

This question was inspired by a Reddit post from someone who’d just discovered they were a Generator. And let me tell you: it broke my heart because for a long time that was me. I saw a version of myself in her frustration, stuckness and powerlessness.

They wrote about being stuck in a job they hated. They were constantly exhausted. It sounded like there was no desire to even look for something else. The frustration is so all-consuming that there’s no spaciousness for anything else. At times, it truly feels that way.

But what hurt me the most was that underneath it all this person didn’t believe life would bring them what they needed.

Goodness, I know that place all too well. I’ve lived there for most of my life.

Pushing, forcing and making things happen was my default mode for a long time.
But nothing would ever stick. Nothing would ever work out the way I had imagined.

Partly, it was all because deep down, I didn’t trust life. So instead of listening to my body, I controlled and hustled and overrode what I felt. I kept chasing what I thought I should want instead of paying attention to what my body was telling me.

I want to share with you what I wrote back to that person:

“The biggest thing I feel called to share right now is this: build a practice around noticing your sacral response, no matter how small or big. That will help you build trust in your unique sacral response. And no, it doesn't need to be a question from someone. As you move about your day, you will inevitably come across things. Start to pay attention to how your body responds.”

The reason why I always start with the practice of noticing our body response is because when we’re stuck in letting our mind drive our decisions, an instruction such as “Just follow your sacral” will not land. I don’t believe this to be the first point of action for someone so far removed from trusting life.

Because not trusting life means we’re not trusting our bodies. Therefore, the starting point needs to be rebuilding a baseline sense of safety in the body so that the Sacral can even be heard.

And that starts small. In fact, so small it might feel almost silly at first.

This means noticing how the body actually feels in different environments, conversations, and activities without trying to change anything yet.

It means learning to spot the difference between mental noise (the shoulds and what ifs) and body sensation (tightness, contraction, warmth, pressure, tingling, vibrating).

It means letting a single micro yes or no guide you, even if it’s just choosing to step outside for fresh air when your body subtly leans that way.

And then making tiny, low-risk decisions from that felt sense so the body gets used to being consulted.

And little by little, through our own data collection, we’re able to build up proof that life indeed provides when we’re open to it.

Because here’s the thing: when you don’t have
a relationship with your body,
cultivating that connection needs to be the first step.

Here are a few tangible steps on where to begin:

1. Notice your energy. As you go about your day, pay attention to how your body responds to what’s in front of you.

2. Name the shift. Does it feel energising and light? Or does it feel heavy and draining?

3. Take small actions. Follow the yes and step back from the no, however micro the action actually is.

4. Make it a practice. Keep doing this daily, even when nothing “big” seems to happen.

5. Watch yourself build trust. Over time, your sacral will know you’re listening and it will start pulling you toward what’s right for you.

I get it: it’s not the instant career fix most people want to hear.

Most of us crave something more certain and concrete. But that’s not how Human Design works. It doesn’t tell us who we are. Rather, it shows us how we can move through life as more honest versions of us.

And this is where self-trust starts. It’s not the big leaps of quitting jobs or moving countries, although they do have their place.

In my experience, self-trust starts with tiny moments of letting your body lead. Because when your body knows you’re listening, the pull toward the next thing will inevitably happen.

Like this letter that was unplanned. Life happened and my body responded.

I’m curious: what have you noticed about your body today? What clear signs has it given you? I’d love to hear from you.

Sending you a deep and nourishing breath,

Silvia

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