Finding Safety In Our Differences

Dear wild-hearted wanderer,

I’ve been reflecting on how writing from different states of being carries a different weight. When urgency shapes our words, the charge of that urgency ripples through. When we show up with grounded presence, that resonance is also felt.

There are times when I’ve written from an activated place, and in doing so, what I shared carried the charge of that state. I see now that not everything the body processes in urgency is meant for immediate sharing. Some reflections are medicine for me alone, a way to ground before offering them outward.

What I’m learning is that discernment is part of belonging: knowing when words are ready to serve the collective, and when they are simply meant to help me come home to myself.

Loss is one of the threads that has shaped me most deeply. Before the age of sixteen, I had already experienced many deaths, most significantly, my dad’s. His sudden absence shook me to my core. For years, my mind knew he was gone, but my body kept searching for him.

It wasn’t until last summer, in the safe container of a breathwork retreat, that I allowed myself to truly grieve. Decades of held pain poured through me. I cried as though my body was finally catching up with what my mind had known all along: he was gone.

In that release, something softened. I could finally let him go. Within that, I accepted that my life would always carry his absence.

This is why grief speaks to me as it does. I know intimately how the absence of a parent reshapes a life.

When I witness death in the collective — whether sudden or violent — I can’t help but feel the echoes of that grief. Beyond ideology, beyond belief, there are always those left behind: children without a parent, families without a loved one, communities grappling with absence.

It reminds me that no matter how much we disagree, every life carries weight. Every loss ripples.

It leaves me wondering: how have we grown so disconnected from our own humanness that we no longer recognise it in another? How has difference become something to fear, rather than something to honour?

For me, the answer always leads back to the body.

When we disconnect from our own humanity — from the complexity within — we lose the capacity to see it in others. We flatten each other into categories of right and wrong, safe and unsafe, for or against.

But when we reconnect with the body, we reconnect with nuance. We feel the storm of activation, and instead of projecting it outward, we can pause, breathe, and let it move through. From this place, we no longer need to erase difference to feel safe.

We live in a world saturated with images of violence and death. It is easy to grow numb. Easy to harden. Easy to forget that what we see on a screen are human lives, each carrying the same fragility and depth as our own.

What if we chose differently?

What if we rooted more deeply into our own belonging, so that difference no longer separates us from our own sense of self-belonging? What if instead of meeting each other with judgment or blame, we practice the steadiness of presence?

Radical humanisation doesn’t ask for agreement. It asks for presence. To recognise the humanity before us, even when we don’t see the world the same way. That recognition is not endorsement. It means that we are rooting in our own belonging, so that we don’t need to erase difference to feel safe.

Luis Mojica speaks beautifully about this on his podcast episode on radical humanisation. I encourage you to listen, sit with it, and return to it — because the world needs more of us who can root into our own humanity, so that we can recognise it in each other.

Before you move on, I invite you to pause. What did this letter stir in you? Where do you notice it in your body? What is the sensation most alive right now? Instead of pushing it away, allow it to be there. Meet it with your presence and your breath. And if you feel like sharing, my inbox is open.

This is the path I’m choosing moving forward. As always, I intend to show up as a grounded presence, rooted in self-belonging, committed to seeing the humanness in everyone — while honouring my own boundaries and the impact of my state.

I’ll be returning next to explore in more depth how our nervous system states shape the way we show up — and how awareness of those states through our own Human Design can help us bring more groundedness into a world that deeply needs it.

Sending you all my love,

Silvia

P.S. What I’ve shared here is a glimpse of the work I hold inside Your Living Body Map — bringing together nervous system awareness and Human Design to support you in meeting life from a more grounded state of self-trust. Applications are currently open, and the price will shift from £122 to £222 on the 1st of October.

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